The Bucket List, such a great way to look ahead, plan, dream big, and get motivated. However, sometimes I get a bit stifled in my mental dream board by the very plain fact that we have no say so in tomorrow. You learn quite quickly when you have experienced tragedy, the unexpected, and wtf-just happened moments, that as cliche’ as it may be (which in itself is a cliche’ now) we really have no control over our tomorrows. I am not saying we should not dream, no please dream big! Dream so big you have a bucket so full you have to start doing stuff just to be able to carry the other dreams around! Scoop in and grab a dream and lighten the load on your soul a bit by doing!
And it was exactly this visualization of scooping up a dream when I decided to create my “Glass List.”
I want to value my life daily.
Want: have a desire. Value: to place an importance on. My Life: my existence in this universe. Daily: today, tomorrow, and all the days I get to be here.
Repeat after me: “I have a desire to place importance on my existence in this universe everyday that I get to be here.”
Yesterday, I was watching a t.v. show and a woman who lost her child said, “No one teaches you how to be a good mother. I thought I would have more time.” <tears> That went straight into my cells. You know when you see or hear something and it bypasses your brain and heart and hits you deeper than what you have any knowledge of, often called the soul? My body does so much on its own without me knowing anything about it that I think of my little cells as my soul’s interpreters, taking in something and then telling my soul in its own language what just happened. That is exactly what happened when I heard the grieving mother speak that incredibly accurate line. So accurate that I thought, “the writer must know.”
We are not guaranteed a lifetime to accomplish a bucket full of things to do. All we have is right now. That is why I devised a “Glass List”. There were other names that I entertained, the “F@$! It List” was my favorite but it goes against some sage advise I have
always tried hard to live by but more often give, “if your brain says ‘F@$! it” DON’T DO IT!” So I tossed that out and did a little more creative thinking. Is the glass half-full or half-empty? Depends on how you choose to look at it right? What struck me in pondering that idiom is that I am really glad to have a glass at all! My life. Something that has the potential to be full, that has sometimes been empty, of love, friendships, joy, faith…that has held a great concoction of experience and knowledge, that if one were to examine closely would see is full of coffee 😉 If you are reading this you have a glass.
What do we do with it? Like a bucket you add and subtract from it as much as you want (“desire”). Your “Glass List” is about your everyday life. When your life begins to feel empty you have a list of things ready to fill it right back up. A list of “this is what makes me happy” that fills your cells with things to tell your soul so that it knows you care.
Here is some of my “Glass List”:
- Bubble Bath
- Hot tea
- Cook something new
- Loud Music
- Call/Text my BFF
- Windows down in the car
- Howling out the car window (don’t judge, we used this technique to expel restless kiddos in the car when they were little, it really works)
- Take a walk
- Take a drive
- Wear silly hats
- Do my hair
You get the idea by now, I hope. Stuff that I like to do that puts me in the positive. Things that are generally easy to do and don’t require a request for vacation time, or leaving my family, job, and house behind. I’ve been there…
I like having a bucket list. I love to dream big. I have been lucky enough to mark off a few adventures from that list, but everyday, everyday that I get to be here, I need to have a moment to be JUST AS IMPORTANT as my big dreams. I need to take care of me in the NOW.
When you are getting the life sucked out of you with one of those giant bubble tea straws or just need a top off, I hope you will refer to your “Glass List” and take care of you. We aren’t guaranteed more time to do things better than before, all we have is this moment.
With an incredible amount of honor and appreciation, I thank you for spending your valuable time reading my post. It filled my glass with joy to write it! Namaste.